Monday, April 29, 2013

Enough Is Enough

I am done. I refuse to tolerate the actions of fools who have no regard for others. Self-centered, irresponsible, ungrateful people who take and never give have no place in my life. I'm beyond being angry or disappointed...I'm just done. I'm letting go of any expectations that they will change, do the right thing, or even show up.


People will show you exactly who they are, by their actions.
 They will also show you exactly what you mean to them the same way.
Believe them. This is reality.
 Your reality will be however you decide to handle it.”
~J.V. Manning

It is sad to watch someone close to us continually disappointed by people they love. I wonder why we tolerate poor behavior from the very people who should never treat us badly. They shouldn't be excused just because they share our DNA or because they have been in our lives for so long. Their action or inaction is the best gauge of how they feel about us.

One of the hardest lessons in life is knowing when to walk away. No one can fix crazy, toxic, or mean people. Worrying about them only brings us down; being angry with them doesn't help the situation. They, like all of us, will have to answer to a higher power one day.

I have learned that I can't change others, only myself. I can limit contact with anyone who does not positively impact my life. I am solely responsible for the people I let into it. 

I am walking away. Enough is enough. Letting go is easier than I thought, and I feel much better already. 

 

Monday, April 15, 2013

Twenty Ways To Take A Break

  1. Light a candle
  2. Take deep breaths
  3. Call a friend
  4. Meander around town
  5. Pet a furry critter
  6. Meditate
  7. Listen to music
  8. Buy flowers
  9. Read or watch something funny
  10. Turn off electronics
  11. Take a walk outside
  12. Watch the clouds
  13. Take a bath
  14. Let go of something
  15. Eat ice cream
  16. Dance
  17. Go stargazing
  18. Take a nap
  19. Ride your bike
  20. Snuggle

Monday, April 8, 2013

Finally Spring!

The past two days have been gorgeous and sunny. After a cloudy and cold March, we finally got a glimpse of more spring-like weather for April. My, how I love the feel of warm sunshine on my face! 

Energized and inspired, I got busy around the house. With windows open and clothes hanging on the line, I raked pine needles, mulched flower beds, cleaned off the back porch, swept the sidewalks, and mowed grass with my Mustang. Afterward, I did a little porch sittin' to breathe in the fresh air.

Thinking about shaking off winter blues prompted me to pull out these two cheerful blue and white projects. I designed Whitey's Blues back in January. The queen size quilt, Charming Squares, was completed several years ago. They'll make a pretty combination to brighten up my guest room. 
 

Spring is a time to refresh and renew, whether it's in nature, our homes or ourselves. I'm ready to get back to spring cleaning, but with frequent breaks to clear my mind and enjoy my surroundings.


"Spring is when life's alive in everything." —Christina Rossetti


Monday, April 1, 2013

Fools

Lately it seems like there are a lot of fools out there. Have you noticed?

Fool:   1. One who is deficient in judgment, sense, or understanding.
             2. One who acts unwisely on a given occasion.

Synonyms: doofus, putz, nincompoop, dunderhead, lamebrain, dummy, moron, jackass

They're everywhere: in government, schools, stores, and in the media. They're on the roads, at workplaces, in your social circles, even in your family. You deal with them online, in person and on the phone.

I wonder how one becomes a fool. Is it in our genes, like having freckles or curly hair? Good grief, let's hope not. Or is the tendency to act like a fool a learned behavior? It could be that people develop this trait as a result of apathy, lack of self-discipline, laziness, or self-centeredness.

It's difficult to interact with fools. They lack common sense and often get worked up about trivial things while ignoring important problems. They cause stress, make drama and seem to enjoy the results. Most have little regard for possessions although they always want more. They avoid responsibility, expect special treatment, and blame their problems on others.

I guess there have always been fools; the Bible mentions them frequently. Maybe answers for how to deal with them can be found there.

Leave the presence of a man who is a fool,
for you will not discern words of knowledge there --Proverbs 14:7; MLB 

Speak not in the ears of a fool:
for he will despise the wisdom of thy words --Proverbs 23:9; KJV

Don't answer the foolish arguments of fools,
or you will become as foolish as they are --Proverbs 26:4; NLT

 
Useful Notion:  Life's too short to suffer fools.  Sometimes you can walk away from them, sometimes you can't. However, you can set boundaries to protect yourself and limit your time around them. You can't fix them, change them, or make their lives better. They have to do that themselves. 


“You will rarely make wise decisions if you surround yourself with fools” 
  ― Rasheed Ogunlaru